Change is an inevitable consequence of life.
It is inescapable.
Sometimes we learn from our experience. Other times, we learn not to go near something (or somebody) because the pain outweighs any gain.
But, even though, you may not have thought deeply about the paradigm, there lies a changeless you. In other words, your values. Rarely, if ever, do we write them down, and even if we espouse them, they are normally so ameliorated by the desire to fit in, or mirror our peers that we don’t commit to fully bearing our soul.
Looking back on some of the most stressful times in my life, I now see that a positive mental attitude wasn’t enough. Instead, even though I wouldn’t have used the label ‘changelessness’, I relentlessly focused on what was important to me, my family and friends.
If you are facing issues with motivation or keeping a sense of perspective, then it is important that you take time to think and listen to your heart. At the end of the day, time is all we have but if you don’t give yourself the space to think then you will forever just glide over the surface of life.
Very few of us have the luxury to complete de-tune from our day-to-day lives, but finding quiet space is vitally important. Think. Think about what is important to you, and really does define you. The aim is to take as long as you like until you have reached a point where, hopefully, you can distil (and understand) the changeless part of your being.
But be prepared for a mighty battle when Resistance (see the War of Art by Steven Pressfield) makes you believe that what you thought was immutable (e.g. loyalty, honesty and reliability) is now fully disposable in the face of a more pressing desire. Don’t assume this process is easy. Focus on the person you know you are, rather than the person others would wish you become. Don’t give in to the temptation to always fit in. You are unique, and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.