Starting over

“When something dies is the greatest teaching.” ― Shunryu Suzuki

We’re scared of losing what we’ve got: our jobs, our wealth, our relationships.

But rarely, if ever, do we question why. If anything, we’re far more influenced by how we think we’ll feel or look than the reality.

I’m no radical, but one thing I know for sure is that in living this way — i.e. based on a consumerist model with all its angst — or aspiring to do so, we’re hastening the end of our planet’s support systems and our species. Of course, you’ll think your de minimus impact isn’t the cause, but you’re deluding yourself. You only have to think how much rubbish you’ll have accumulated to this point and to the end of your life, to realise that when you have 10 billion people all adding to the pile, something has to give.

If we and the generations to come have any chance of survival, we have to envisage a life of less not more. Trust me, future generations will have little to say that’s positive when they’re left to clean up our sordid mess.

But back to the point in hand.

My advice is stop putting off something that you know you’ve got to address whether that’s a crappy job, cumulative debt or a relationship that’s not working. The sooner you bear down on the point you keep coming back (which lives in your head) the easier it will be to reconcile what you know you’ve got to do — it lives in your heart — as opposed to what you’re actually doing. (This is one example of self-inquiry, and you may find it helpful to write things down and come back to them once the dust has settled on your deepest thoughts and fears, expressed hopefully in a few honest words.)

I suppose what I’m saying is that the longer we put things off the harder it becomes but more than that the less likely it is we’ll grow into our true selves.

Starting over. It’s more than a metaphor for change. It could be as profound as being reborn.