Be kind to yourself

Devon at its finest

“For this is what we do. Put one foot forward and then the other. Lift our eyes to the snarl and smile of the world once more. Think. Act. feel. Add our little consequence to the tides of good and evil that flood and drain the world. Drag our shadowed crosses into the hope of another night. Push our brave hearts into the promise of a new day. With love; the passionate search for truth other than our own. With longing; the pure, ineffable yearning to be saved. For so long as fate keeps waiting, we live on.” ― Gregory David Roberts, Shantaram

If you’ve followed my writing, you’ll understand the theme, namely awaken to our true, genius self. But I’d be the first to admit that rarely do I give sufficient attention to our ability to endure, even when we’re seduced to believe that we and our thoughts are one — which they’re not.

Perhaps it’s my upbringing, perhaps it’s because I know no different or perhaps it’s because I don’t think it helps to labour too much on the vicissitudes of life; but whatever the reason, I take too much for granted: not everyone wants to bury themselves under a weight of often self-imposed expectation.

But actually, as a species, we’re bloody amazing. Even in the depths of despair, we have this overwhelming survival instinct. Sadly, there are instances where people let go but there are plenty of people who are propelled to the edge but manage, through immense pain and suffering, to pull back and live thereafter a reasonably normal but of course affected life. If I’m honest, there have been many times in my life where Black Dog has come upon me, but by allowing my mind to settle, I’ve been able to see through the fog and move forward. I don’t make light of this but as a result of my understanding of The Three Principles, I now know the best thing to do is allow my mind to come to rest and accept that even Black Dog thoughts and my mood will pass, and particularly if I don’t stir things up.

I suppose what I’m really saying is we don’t need to keep beating ourselves over the head and imposing ridiculous goals and objectives on our heart and soul for fear of not amounting to much. (I don’t buy this for one second; I’m of the very firm view that we’re all brilliant, even if we don’t aspire to be some uber successful, bag a few more titles or nail the money sort of person.)

So, don’t despair. Be kinder to yourself. And know that your innate wisdom will always be there to guide you through whatever troubled waters you have to navigate.