…we weren’t forced to work in jobs we despised
…we were allowed to be who we always intended to be
…we found connection with something outside our egoic identity
…we didn’t live a divided life (Q. are you the same person all the time, i.e. in work and at home?)
…we didn’t use love as a control mechanism
…we weren’t attached to attachment
At the end of the day, the way we live is a choice, unless you think you’re under the control of some non-native force. If that’s right, then what’s stopping you from living closer to your true self?
Below is a short passage from Thomas Merton’s extraordinary book, New Seeds of Contemplation. It’s the one book that I can honestly say has made a difference in my life. I’m not asking that you do anything beyond read the passage, but it’s only when we look beyond the artificial to the deeper aspects of our life that we begin to see life through a different lens.
“Everyone of us is shadowed by an illusory person: a false self…We are not very good at recognizing illusions, least of all the ones we cherish about ourselves. (34) Contemplation is not and cannot be a function of this external self. There is an irreducible opposition between the deep transcendent self that awakens only in contemplation, and the superficial, external self which we commonly identify with the first person singular.(7) Our reality, our true self, is hidden in what appears to us to be nothingness….We can rise above this unreality and recover our hidden reality….(281) God Himself begins to live in me not only as my Creator but as my other and true self. (41)”