Do you remember the book “I’m OK — You’re OK“?
It’s a long time ago since I read it; but from a non-dual perspective, it beautifully sums up the idea that there’s nothing to do…to connect deeply with life.
To my mind, well-being is much like that.
Unfortunately, it (wrongly) starts from the position that you’re broken or emotionally deformed, and you’ve got to do something to be well again.
Prima facie, as antithetical as it may sound, when there is no one in charge (see my earlier post), you can’t move towards anything.
I appreciate how desultory these few words might be to your logical self, which is having to deal with another crappy situation, but what if you operated instead from a place where I told you that you’re already perfect and there’s nothing you need do to achieve the apogee of well-being?
That’s not entirely true.
If you really want to be well in your being, you need to stop arguing with what is.
“Do we now know what fear is? Is it not the non-acceptance of what is? We must understand the word acceptance. I am not using that word as meaning the effort made to accept. There is no question of accepting when I perceive what is. When I do not see clearly what is, then I bring in the process of acceptance. Therefore fear is the non-acceptance of what is.” — Jiddu Krishnamurti
Of course, to the ego that feels wrong. But it only exists by setting up a duality with what is. When there is just this — however it unfolds — there is no tension.
However, when our focus is on the individual as someone or something in control, it feels the most natural thing in the world to heal ourselves. And I’m sure for many people there are periods of equanimity, but if my life is anything to go, the moment I drop into my thinking self, is the moment I argue with reality; and I lose every time.
For me there is no greater teaching that these three words of Osho:
“Be — drop becoming.”
I know I can’t compel you to do anything but if you must pick up the well-being baton please consider who or what is it that seeks to be well in their being.